WHAT'S IN A NAME...
Well, it's in motion... After a long discussion with my husband, he's decided to change his name and do away with any remaining connections to his adopted "Wagner" family and to also alter his first name from Winfield to his initial birth name of Sven. I think this is a wonderful idea for emotional closure since his parents are gone and those who remain are oblivious to the world LOVE or FAMILY.
Since we're legally married in Washington DC, he asked if I wanted to change my name also. I assumed Wagner about 20 years ago when my sexually abusive, drug addicted step father (Sande) croaked.
So I thought for awhile and since his name is going to be Sven Andréas Wallin, I decided to move mine to Rikard Michael Wallin.
Rikard, (isn't that so awesomely exotic and cool?) and I can still be Rik for short so people don't have to call me a new name...
So there you have it FB Peeps!! My new name will become Rik Wallin over the coming months.. (by the way, in Sweden the name Wallin sounds like Vall-een)
Posted on Saturday, February 1st, 2014 at 11:42
“Wow, that was basically an autobiography,” my friend John said after he read my book, BRENT: THE HEART READER.
Busted. Brent’s family is full of goody two-shoed Duck’tards, who exude homophobia. Their idea of fun included physical and emotional abuse and at least one case of man-on-boy rape. I’m not a “real relative” according to them.
I lifted much of that from my experience with the relatives of the couple that adopted me. They rescued me from foster care, and I am as grateful for that as I know how to be. “The system” was awful. Thank goodness I only spent six years there. Almost immediately after I was adopted, I was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma, and the couple that adopted me got me the best medical care that was available. I will be grateful to them for that (and all the other things they did) as long as I live.
They’ve been dead for 10 years (mom) and 12 years (dad). That left me with a bunch of cousins who were able to abuse me with impunity. Way back, mom kept her relatives in line.
Those people hate gays and liberals and people with scary health issues. I was always the Black Sheep in the family, according to them. Now without my adopted parental units, they got together and labeled me a diseased pariah. They came out of church and called my husband all kinds of deplorable things.
All that sounds like the relatives in BRENT: THE HEARTREADER. I humiliated those abusive characters in the book. I had some of them arrested and killed off one or two. It was great therapy.
Now that my adopted parents are gone for more than a decade, I have no connection with any of their relatives. In theory, I have a half-brother running around somewhere. He’d be a little older than me, but I’ve never heard any inkling that he even knows about me. My birth mother is dead, and I know almost nothing about the sperm donor. It was probably a one night stand.
All I know about my personal history is that I am 100% Swedish. I remember that they called me Sven before I was adopted.
So now, I’ve decided to finish cutting the ties with all those people in my adopted family. They hate me, which is their loss. People who know about attitudes say cutting the remaining ties will be therapeutic.
In the coming weeks, I’m going through the court system to get my name changed.
There won’t be a Winfield Wagner any more. My nickname – Wynn Wagner – will become a nom de plume (or nom de guerre).
New name: Sven Andréas Wallin.
- First name is what my actual name was. Sven means kid or young one.
- Middle name – Andréas – is a form of Andrew. I really like Andréas.
- Last name will be Wallin because my husband likes it. The name means valley or pasture.
My initials will be SAW, which is a little snarky (cutting device, not the ocular procedure). The e-acute in my middle name is on the edge of snooty, so that’ll be fun.
What I’m not used to is that the world is full of people named Sven Wallin. I am used to having free access for user names because nobody claims “wynnwagner” or “winfieldwagner”. Sadly “svenwallin” is already in use at all the major web services. The world is crawling with Sven Wallin peeps. On a recent check, I was literally tripping over “svenwallin” user names, so I will have to get used to being part of a crowd.
The name everybody knows – Wynn Wagner – will be my pen name. Sven Andréas Wallin will be my legal name.
The coolest part is that my husband is changing his name too, so we will continue sharing our family name. This time, It is OUR family name. Awwwww.….